From Anticipatory Replies To Revenge Bedtime: Owning Your Attention

Ever felt your point evaporate the moment someone jumps in? We explore why interruptions happen, how the brain races ahead with anticipatory replies, and what actually keeps the floor when conversations speed up. The surprising hero is small and powerful: a deliberate command pause that signals importance, calms the room, and helps your words land without getting louder or longer.

We walk through how to frame a thought so listeners lean in, then use a beat of silence that snaps attention back from prediction to presence. It’s a simple shift with outsized impact, especially in fast-paced talks or emotionally loaded moments. Along the way, we admit our own missteps—banter that feels fun to one person can feel like cutting off to the other—and share how those patterns nudge people into self-censoring. If you’ve ever watched someone go quiet after being interrupted, you’ll recognize the cost: less trust, fewer ideas, and a colder room.

The conversation widens to another attention battleground: sleep. Revenge bedtime procrastination steals hundreds of hours because late-night “me time” feels like the only time we own. We dig into why autonomy wins over rest and offer simple, realistic boundaries that still respect that need for space: one show, one chapter, one message, then lights out. We also push past clicky outrage—like the viral almond milk gross-out—because focus is a finite resource. Instead, we end on community and gratitude: tipping stories, small rituals that anchor a week, and the sudden loss of a favorite mom-and-pop salon that reminds us why presence matters.

If you want better conversations, steadier nights, and sharper attention, this one gives you tools you can use today. Listen, try the frame-and-pause, and tell us what changed. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs the pause, and leave a quick review to help others find us.

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Chapters

• 0:29 Warm-Up And Topic Tease
• 0:44 Why People Interrupt
• 2:25 Personal Habits And Self-Censoring
• 4:33 Command Pause And FBI Training
• 5:30 Headlines That Don’t Land
• 6:24 Revenge Bedtime Procrastination
• 11:29 Moldy Almond Milk Detour
• 12:45 Question Of The Day: Biggest Tip
• 14:08 Sign-Off And Close

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:15

Hello, good morning my little love bunnies. It's Tuesday. Of course you know it's Tuesday. I don't know why I feel the need to tell you what day it is. Oh, you know what day it is. Why do I do that? I don't know. It must be like a little crutch or something. Alright, over here on the X Profile, we are going with public speaking expert reveals two FBI interrogation tactics to stop anyone from interrupting you. This is interesting. Not that any well, I you know, I don't even really talk that much to anybody else, so I don't even notice if anybody interrupts me or not. I know I interrupt people and I shouldn't do that. Shame on me. Alright, hold on. I gotta back out of this app and try to go to the okay, hold on. Alright, sometimes I can open it straight from X and it'll be fine. And then other times when I open the app, New York app from X, it just I just get flooded with ads. So I had to go directly to the New York Post app and open it. Alright, according to Psychologist, oh my gosh, and author, Doctor, oh boy, here we go with the names. Hmm Shazad Jalali. This is known as anticipatory responding, a process in which the brain begins formulating a reply before the speaker has finished. We all know about this. We've heard about it before. Actually, I skipped down a little bit. Sorry. Psychologists say there's a reason why, and a leading communications expert claims there are FBI approved ways to prevent and redirect interrogations. There are typically two reasons why someone cuts you off or interrupts you. Public speaking and communications coach Stuart Fetterson told the post. The first is that they think they already know where you're going in the conversation. I am guilty of this, and my husband has almost broken me from it. Because I can see his face when I do it, and I know when I do it because of his facial expressions. So that I immediately immediately stop and try to, you know, back off. I don't know. I don't know why I do that. Okay. Moving on. Let's see. The moment they feel like they're getting to the point, their brain fires those neurons and they begin interrupting. According to okay, I already read this. This reduces listening accuracy and increases interruption, particularly in fast-paced conversations, she said. The second reason people interrupt, you're boring them. Oh boy. A person will interrupt if they're not engaged or hooked into what you're saying, said Federson, who claims that without a hook, the mind drifts and the mouth opens. Nevertheless, all those fits all the all those fits and starts can be phenomenally frustrating for the speaker. Repeated interruption can undermine psycho psychological safety and self-expression, blah, blah, blah, blah. She notes that over time individuals may internalize the experience, speaking less or self-censoring. Interesting. You know, also I self-censor myself when I stop interrupting too. Because I feel like I when I interrupt my husband, I feel like we're having a back and forth. He feels like I'm interrupting him. So then I just shut down and just let him talk, and then I have nothing else to say. Because I will have forgotten what the point I wanted to make back to him. And we're not arguing, we're just talking. And I can tell he gets frustrated with me because I want to have that banter. And he just wants to finish his story. So I don't know. I don't know. Let's see. Um let's see. From a nervous system perspective, frequent interruption can activate stress responses, particularly for those with prior experiences of being dismissed or unheard. According to Fedterson, to avoid being cut off and to course correct when we are interrupted, we need to strategically incorporate engagement techniques, really. First, you frame what you're about to say so that it grabs their attention, something like, I really need you to pay attention to this one. That's okay. Then you pause for a beat, he said. That delay signals confidence and tells the listener brain, hold on, this matters. Fetterson, who extensively researched FBI interrogation training, says the command pause is used by agents to assert power in their communications and ensure that their questions are heard and answered. What's the second one? I need to know the second one. What's the second one? I'm trying to move down, move. Oh my gosh, trying to move down, move down. Um well, it's a long article. You can go finish reading that one if you like to find out what the second tactic is. Okay, what is up next on the agenda? Let's see. Over here on my X file, go back. Oh boy, let's see. Bear with me. Should have been more prepared. Out-of-touch influencer sparks backlash after slamming ER nurse for ridiculous reason. Now, I haven't even read this one, so we'll see what it says. I don't think this is the right story, though. Oh, okay, okay, okay. This is the right story. And she's not in the ER, by the way. This is such a dumb story. You know what? I don't even want to read it. I think I put this one on there because I was desperate and I was looking for stuff. We'll see. We're gonna move on. Yeah, we're gonna move on. If you want to read that one, it's out there on my ex profile. It's so dumb. Alright, here's the next story. Bedtime Pro I think they're all stories are dumb that I'm doing today, but I look, I'm desperate to find stories. Bedtime procrastination is stealing hundreds of hours of American sleep. Survey, I am guilty of this, or I have been in the past, and I know my mama used to do this too. Because she had five kids, and look, what she wanted it was time to go to bed. My papa would come out, he would go to bed, and he would expect her to be in bed too, and then be like a half an hour later she wouldn't be in bed. He would get back up out of the bed, go to the living room, say, Hey, where you know, are you coming to bed? She's like, I will in a minute. I'm enjoying my quiet time because I guess all the other kids were in bed, and that was her quiet time. Americans lose over 300 hours of sleep per year to revenge bedtime procrastination, according to news research. The survey of 2,000 Americans revealed that the vast majority of respondents, 96%, are guilty of this, where they intentionally stay up late to enjoy personal time, even knowing it will negatively affect their sleep. Yes, I have done this before too. We all have. Respondents have a revenge bedtime every other night. I don't know that I'd call it revenge bedtime, 3.5 times per week. I don't do it that often because I love my sleep. I really do. On average, staying up, see if I wanted to do this, I would stay up late and watch Gutfeld. I want to watch Gutfeld when it happens, when it's on TV, but I'm too I need my sleep. I can't stay up and watch him. I wish I could. Uh let's see, let's see. On average, staying up roughly an hour and 50 minutes later than usual each bedtime. The results in respondents losing about 332 hours of sleep per year. Wow, okay, so 63% of respondents said nighttime is the only time they have for themselves, which might explain the most common uses of this late nighttime. Yeah, I can see that, especially if you have little ones. Respondents were most unlikely were most likely to admit to staying up late, having time that for hobbies, or taking the opportunity for alone time, probably watching Netflix, binging, reading a book even. Um, let's see. Okay, well, that's a long story too. If you want to go finish reading that, it has all the percentage and the statistics, blah, blah, blah, boring stuff. I don't think you'll find it interesting. But I just I found it interesting that people do that, stay up late to just for their just so they can unwind and have their own time to themselves. I understand that. Not that I need it anymore now that my kids are grown and I don't really have a demanding job either anymore. I'm not having to, you know, serve people in a retail. I'm not having to answer to a boss all the time. You know, I pretty much work on my own. So I don't really need to stay up late anymore for myself. Okay, well, oh, this is interesting. Woman finds horrifying discovery at the bottom of milk carton. I can't believe I drank that yesterday. She supposedly found mold in the bottom of the milk carton. An Aussie woman has made a disgusting discovery in her almond milk, taking to social media to share the horrifying find. Well, that's your mistake number one, buying almond milk. The woman named Lauren, who owns swimwear brand Lolo Swim, said she discovered what appeared to be a clump of mold, and they spelled mold M-O-U-L-D. Is that correct? I'm not sure. In her inner goodness, Barista almond milk, which she bought at Aldi. Mistake number two, buying something from Aldi. I can't believe I drank that yesterday, she says in a video posted to TikTok, showing a black lump of her f on her fork. Lauren said she decided to cut the carton open, showing a much larger black object in the bottom of it. And what she shows, it doesn't look like mold to me. I don't know what it looks like, but it doesn't look like mold. I can't understand what it is, but maybe the picture's weird. Anyway, whatever. We're moving on to the question of the day. I know this is such a dumb episode, but we're almost done with the whole podcast. We have you know like 20-something episodes to go before I close it down. Alright, question of the day. I had a good one, and of course I've already forgotten it. Um let's see, I need to come up with something else. What is the most that you have tipped anyone? Recently, during Christmas, it was like a week before Christmas, I was doing doing my nails, and of course I had I had to ask the gent for money. I have to give him credit. He's the one that gave me the money. But I tipped my nail technicians$100 each for Christmas. One for my toes, one for my fingernails. Um, and we we've done that before. We have let me tell you a story. Let me tell you a story. I may have already told you this before. We, the gent and I used to go to a nail salon that was owned by a couple. They were married, he was Hispanic, she was Asian, they had children together, they had twins, and then they had another baby. Cutest little family ever. And they owned this little nail salon. It was just the two of them that worked there. And we went there for years to get my, you know, our nails done, and my and Jit would get a pedicure. I would get a pedicure and my nails done there, and she did such a great job. Well, you know, after Trump got elected the second time, we went on a Friday, we normally went on every other Friday to get our toes done together, and they we we got our regular appointment done, everything went great, everything was wonderful. We, you know, chit-chatted about, and we've tipped them well before during Christmas time too, because we got to know them. We felt like we were, you know, friendly with them, and then we we knew them, we knew their kids, we knew all that stuff. And let me tell you, Friday, we made our appointment, and then Friday night, I think it was Friday night, or maybe it was Saturday. It was like shortly after we got home from that. It may have been a day, it may have been that night, I'm not sure. But we get a text from Lily saying, hey, we uh need to cancel your appointment. We are we we are shutting down, we're not, we're gonna close our store. Our landlord wants to raise our rent, and we can't find another studio that for the price that we want, so blah blah blah. Well, the next day, the gent and I drove up there. The next day we drove up there and it was wiped out, everything was gone. You could look in the front door and see everything gone. It's like what in the hell happened? We are thinking since Trump became president the second time and Christy Gnome started doing all of her commercials. We don't know for sure if they were illegal or not here properly. I don't think they were here illegal, surely not. But I maybe they decided maybe he decided to self-deport, come back. I don't know, but they were just gone. He they he has family here in Alabama elsewhere. We don't know in another town, probably an hour away, 40 minutes away, an hour away, something like that. Maybe they decided to go back to there. I don't know. We don't know what happened to them. We don't know. It's weird, isn't it? Weird. I hate it. Okay, I guess that's all I had to say. All right, that's all I got. Thanks for listening. Bye.